I think that MsHD is in denial in certain ways that might be unmasked in a situation that invoked a jealous or competitive reaction
This is kind of what I was getting at. It's all very well for Mrs HD to say "take me as I am or move on," and she may very well know in a hypothetical sort of way that HD could find someone else, but if she really didn't give a sh!t, she wouldn't exhibit jealousy, she'd exhibit relief.
The point of all this is how to get Mrs. HD to come out of the shadows, ADMIT she cares about what happens to this marriage, and stop hiding behind the armor-plated brassiere of the Viking Warrior Maiden. Her "do whatever you have to do but leave me out of it" attitude is a mask, as cobra keeps pointing out.
THAT'S why I think the fact of her exhibiting jealousy is significant.
