It is all about balance. Not too distant and yet not too smothering. I agree that her fitting you in for a cleaning, agreeing to go to counselling are great baby steps and you need to let her feel like she is a choice.
As for a Saturday night dinner at your place, I'm a little skeptical about sending your daughter to a friend's place. I think it is too soon. Perhaps you can have your D10 invite a friend so that she can have someone to play with while you spend time with your W. She may feel uncomfortable just with the two of you, JMO. I am so happy for you.
I won't hijack your thread but I will be starting a new thread tonight as my last one locked a few weeks ago. I just received an email from H who said he is submitting D papers and wanted to give me the heads up. Nice, eh? I will need your advice as I now enter the stage you are now coming out of.
Hugs to you and hope all goes well tomorrow, ISLH
Me: 49 - S22 & S26 H: 41 - No kids M: 10/00 Bomb New Year's Day 2006 H living w OW 01/07; have baby 12/07 D final 07/07 Thread #9 - Hope Lives On
