Here is something good I copied from 25yrmlc My DB coach also suggested the following: Listen like a lover/friend. Lose the parental voice ("why are you doing this to us? How can you be so selfish,?" etc) b/c it shuts down their own inner voice. And try not to challenge their choices, b/c it forces them to defend the choices instead of honestly looking at them. Last but not least, and incredibly difficult at times, is to "applaud loudly for the 1% of good he does/says." Negative feedback just doesn't work, period. Same with the s3, same with the MLCer.
M45, W45,S15, D10, Bomb 10/3/06, Moved back in 11/6/06, finally ILY 9/07 last thread
