When I was around my XH I was chipper nice and sweet. The only time bitterness would surface, it was less about him leaving and more about money. I would get a little testy when he would comment that he only has 5k of debt left to pay off then he can start looking for a house. I would just say, that must me nice.
When he left, he left me with ANYTHING that had any slight HINT of responsibility. So I have the house (And all the work and maintence), I have the animals, 3 cats and a dog (and all the work, and money that needs to put into them), and yes THE DEBT! He declared bankruptcy before we married so he had no credit so anything we needed when on my credit cards, that had my name on them. (Oh yes let me also mention that we bought a house and moved in together before we got married and 30 days befoe we were closed on the house he lost his job. We went from making 5k a month to just over 2k. So I supported both of us for 9 months while he didn't have a job.) So when he left he didn't claim ANY of the debt that was on my credit cards except what I had recepits to prove. He paid me 4k to settle the debt. Let me tell you that we put more than 3 times that on my credit cards during our 4 year marriage, with home improvement etc... etc.. SO THAT was the only time I was a little bitter. And who can blame me?! I am a teacher, I don't make lots of money and I get to carry ALL the responsibility he walked away from.
But generally I was a "happy go lucky everything is wonderful I am so happy the world is great, what can I do to make your life better" girl when he saw me. Of course now... apparently that was too much for him... so if you go to the middle of my thread you will find out that recently he has taken the No Contact option.:(
