The investment book, “The Motley fool Investment guide by David and Tom Gardner arrived today. Their workbook is on the way.

I ordered "Wild at Heart" by John Eldredge. I am not looking to the book for a cure or revelation. It was listed in one of the church marriage booklets and on this forum several times.

Re cobra
Maybe this is another assumption? Maybe you think your are really working hard on the M, but BB sees it another way?
She does see it another way!

I still think that what she wants is for you to rescue her, which is not good, but you can show empathy for her views, regardless of whether you agree or not . IT IS IMPORTANT SHE HEAR THIS FROM YOU.
I agree.

I know from experience an up cycle is followed by a down cycle, and it happened a little yesterday. Not much of a problem for me when I know it's coming, just have to do what I need to do and maintain the boundaries. The up cycle is showing signs of starting again.:)

Lou