That's disappointing, but it's much better that if he does commit to working on the marriage he be 100% in it. With a history of yo-yoing you need him to be absolutely certain. You don't want to do this to yourself or your child.
My husband has a history of yo-yoing too. He "sat on the fence" for many years so I know how frustrating and painful that can be.
If you do get back together, any way you can become friends with his friends? And avoid expressing any jealousy and cattiness toward OW so you appear like the nicest, most fabulous woman on earth? I'd probably try to start developing that right away... even if you don't reconcile. It never hurts to have more friends, aquaintances and potential admirers!!!
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
