New To Piecing III

[COG]

Here's something interesting. FIL and MIL just stopped by my office to say hello, they were in the building next door. I wanted to show them a new piece of office equipment I bought. So I showed it to them, gave them the rundown. My FIL comment's, "well yes but I bet it costs a lot more to....", and "well I've just started doing blah blah blah and it's much easier", well blah, blah blah. Pointed out one negative after the other, NOTHING positive at all. Made me feel like, why the hell did I just waste my time. I was'nt even looking for an opinion.

I'm reminded that my W's family is very much a cup is half empty group, especially her dad whom she adores. He's got a big heart, very nice guy, but always has to point out the negatives in everything. Like if someone says the sky is blue, he'll say no, there are actually a few clouds over there blah blah blah. I've heard him tell his grown kid's how they can't do this, or they can't do that because blah blah blah. He's very negative yet comes off as a very upstanding guy, which he is. I used to argue with him but now I just keep my mouth shut when he wants to discuss anything because he's always right.

It's very opposite to how I grew up. It was'nt perfect mind you, but there were never any boundaries as to what we could accomplish. And I was taught to be grateful for what we had, and to always look for the positives. It makes it so hard to relate to a negative minded person.

I'm not the only one that recognizes it, FIL's kid's all know it too. I can live with him being negative, but I'm afraid that's how my W sees the world too. Everythings good if it's going HER way, but any other way is just flawed and an attack against her. And she's the biggest complainer if anyone gives her resistance to an idea etc. She still holds a grudge against a girl who did something mean to her in the fifth grade. Still talks trash about her for something she did 35 years ago when they were 11 years old. That's just flat weird. She needs a change of heart alright, and she's right that it's NOT all about ME. I'm the best friggin thing that's ever happened to her and she's going to realize that some day, with or without ME!

Before I got M, I had a serious long term R with another lady. Basically she dumped me. I hung on a long time, but eventually gave up, met my W, and we got M. Later, I heard from one of my former girlfriends best friends that she'd had a breakdown after she heard that I'd gotten M. The friend said to her, "well did you really think he was going to wait forever"? I swore to myself I'd never make the mistake of hanging on too long again, and here the f??k I am, AGAIN! Well my W had better get her sh?? together because I've about had it! She's considering if she wants to keep trying, well I've got knews for her, I'm considering wether to kick her friggin ass or not!!

Right now I'm thinking that maybe freedom from HER [censored], just might be worth the pain.

Thanks for letting me vent.

Love,

COG