WTH????!!! You were right to be wary. He has not had enough of the "other side" to know what the heck he wants. Cake, ice cream, what flavor?? Protect yourself and your kids. Check out the site that 4kids wrote about on FaithIsBelieving's thread. It's from al-anon but you can call the MLCer an MLCaholic b/c most of it applies. The detachment and forgiveness parts helped enormously. So do some of Marianne Williamson's books about anger and "return to love". (Sorry if I'm repeating myself with that author's reference). But You have to detach in order to just LIVE and get on with the rest of the world, rather than waiting around for him to decide IF and WHEN he does.
So sorry. And mad at him. I bet if you told him not to bother telling you anything about a reconciliation unless he is actually ready for one, he might figure out that you dislike the game of yo-yo. It is SO unfair and selfish. And weird. Didn't he say he had "never been more sure of anything"?? He needs help. Sorry, and sending ((HUGS)) j-
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
