His realtionship with his whole family is poor AT BEST! His mother stayed with his father who was a jerk, to put it nicely. My XH was the "mouthy" one and got the brunt of his father's rage. I blame his mother for a lot of his trust issues when it comes to women. She set the stage for the rest of us. She was the ONE person who was supposed to make my XH feel loved and supported and safe, and she didn't do any of that.
My Xh refers to this lady at his 2nd mom and her family as his 2nd family. He goes over there for every holiday after he sees his own family. We had to go to his mom's house, then his brother's house then her house one thanksgiving.
I don't know... needless to say I have "issues" with this lady. I don't think she has his best interests in mind. If she did she would tell him that spending EVERY day over at her house isn't healthy nor is it helping him. She is allowing him to hide for his reality. She isn't allowing him to grow. She isnt going to be around forever to take care of him.
I think my biggest issue with this woman is that when he left in march of 2005 she was 'somewhat supportive' of me, until I told her I would rather have my XH be dead than this. (her husband died 4 years ago) I told her at least she never had to think he her husband sleeping with another woman, or another woman having his child etc. THen when we got back together she said she would support us etc.. etc.. Then when he left this time I e-mailed her and said "please look after him" and she asked "how are you?" And I told her that i feel like my husband has died for a 2nd time. Needless to say through the grapevine I heard this made her really mad, made her son and daughter really mad too. So I haven't heard from her since. Some support she was!
Sorry that was a lot of nothing babble! Good to get it out... but still R2
