Aud, Just rolling in. I think what OSU suggested is good. I have done a little and mean a little R talk prompting. I just would find a moment that felt secure and just blurt out how I was feeling with things, or the day. It didnt puit her on the defensive and strangely she did open up.. Of course everyone is different and we are what your thread states "treading water" but you kind of have to wave your arms occasionally to do this. Just wanted to say you are steady and enjoy your support on the other side of the tracks...peace
