Rosy, Yeah I am not sure about the whole EA thing. While my gut says no there are parts of me that have my doubts. My XH in recent years had spent a great deal of time with his best friend's mom. And while she is 57, I don't think there were any romantic intentions, but I think he started leaning on her and confiding in her and liked his alone time with her. That sent up red flags for a me a little and our MC had little flags up but my XH laughed it off.
I just tried to make myself more comfortable around this woman. I tried to spend time over there, despite the fact that I always felt out of place and no one would talk to me when I was over there. I asked my XH in Oct of 2005 if we could do some other things with this woman and the people around her. I told him I just don't feel comfortable. I would like maybe to go out to dinner with these people or have them over to our house for dinner once in a while. And the response I got was, "F- you. That is not what my friends and I like to do. So you can go screw yourself."
This hurt my feelings more than anything. Here I was trying to be comfortable with a group of people who did not make me feel welcome and I just wanted to understand if it was just the way they were, or if it was just me that they didn't like.
It would really gross me out if there was anything more than a mom/son kind of realtionship going on there. But is does always make me wonder, no matter how many people tell me there is nothing going on there is that question in the back of my mind. He is 28, she is 57, she hangs out with my XH (who left me in march 2005-may 2005, then left again jan 2006) her niece in-law who left her nephew March 2006, and her son 28 and various other people who are in their 40's and 50's. Something just seems off there, especially since my XH used to give me crap about talking to my mother daily, why would he all of a sudden crave that mother connection?!
