I went back and read that post, Mrs.Nop. And here's where, as Nop would say, different relationships have to be handled differently. Your relationship is so different than mine, and MsHdog would never get to this point: Quote: Once we reached the point where sex became the forefront issue that we were going to work on,
You do realize that I was not choosing for this to be the issue?
It only takes one spouse to make an issue *the* issue.
As a non-LD woman, here's what I glean from your statements. NOP did not force you to have "teeth gritting sex." You made that decision yourself and got through it with your own fortitude. NOP likewise had fortitude and was wise and strong enough to walk through that barren landscape to get you both where you needed to go.
I made that decision because at the time the alternative was eventually going to be no marriage.
Come on, we know HD is not going to "force" his wife to have sex. He can however, force his wife to choose between dealing with their sex problems or dealing with the demise of their marriage.
Not on her own volition. IOW, not without pressure from HD. At which point she will make the choice on whether she wants or does not want this marriage.
Come on, we know HD is not going to "force" his wife to have sex. He can however, force his wife to choose between dealing with their sex problems or dealing with the demise of their marriage.
This is how he can force her to deal with the issue. He cannot force her to have sex.
I still think option 3 which would be to take advantage of MsHD's natural tendency towards jealousy and competition would work best. All HD has to do is act out the Schnarchian bar scenario. HP and I will both be at the bar and when MsHD comes looking for him we will be sitting at a table with him laughing and looking hot. Of course, we will have to somehow make it obvious that we are intelligent women and not bar bimbos. Perhaps sexy business suits would be an appropriate look.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver