But it's hard to "adore" someone who doesn't respect you, and who makes no effort to speak to your LL the way that I do to hers.
Choc, to this I say you must not be speaking her LL. You think you are, but you aren't. Maybe she doesn't really understand what she wants. If you were speaking her LL, she would respond (unless she really is a hopeless princess/b1tch). I have a hard time writing off people, though, because I think it all comes down to self-protection and fear. If we can peel off the layers and get underneath then we can find out who the person really is.
I think that your W doesn't really understand how you feel because you aren't communicating it to her in a way that she understands. What is her LL? I'm sure that she's not feeling loved and this is at least part of the reason she is LD, especially since you wrote in NOP's thread that she was HD earlier in your R. She's unhappy! Find out why!
I never replied to your original "jealousy" post with my thoughts, but I'll tell you now. My guess is that your W wants you to be jealous because at this point she'll take ANY attention from you. This isn't any different than children acting out to get their parents' attention. They'll take negative attention over none at all. I have felt the same way toward my H, when he would be dismissive and avoidant. If you avoid and dismiss your W to protect yourself, then she will crave attention even more. And as NOP said, if she doesn't get it from you, she might start looking elsewhere.
