Ha, Poin well taken and everyday I ask the Lord to help me keep my mouth shut when he is being verbally abusive. Let me give you a little background. My H has always been physically and verbally abusive since right after the honeymon. The first two years my insecurity that he helped to maintain or instill in me and the fact that I was very passive kept me from ever standing up for myself untile I finally woke up one day when his hands went too far w/ one of the girls and I called the cops on him. All in all, I sent him to jail twice and they ordered anger management classes. With the years he has learned how to handle his anger better. I t has been a long time his anything physical, but the verbal continues and now I am learning NOT to react and therefore w/ my NOT reacting as much, in turn he has susided some. I really want to make our home feel safe for him and when I started to make the changes in me a saw little baby steps from him, like coming home on time and not going out sll night like before when I discovered the A.
You, see I think his anger somewhat comes down from his dad who was also abusive to him. His mom even had to stop working b/c of all the trouble H was causing in school. She says h had always a promblem w/ his mouth and did not have any respect for anyone including his teachers.
I feel like whatever I do I can't win. I have stopped being so nicey nicey and going out of my way including not initiaing sex whatsoever(don't want stds) and now he accuseses ME of cheating. In the past I was the one to mostly iniate sex, so I guess that confuses him now.
