I have not been on in a long time, and had to come up with a new name (shorter version of my old one. I see some of you have been asking about me on MTN's forum, so I decided to pop in and give an update.
MLC is crazy. Life has taken me to places that I wouldn't want my worst enemies to go. My H (yes, he is "still" my H), is finally out of the tunnel and getting back his life. It has been a slow and painful process and I have hung in there every step of the way. (Not sure why......but none the less I am still here)
Let me start by saying that we are NOT together, but we are friends.........maybe working on the together part. More on that later.
As for me, EVERYONE, get a life. I have moved on. I sold our marital house, I got a job, (actually 2), and I started to not care. These MLC'ers can NOT be helped or saved by ANYONE, so best to let them swing and take the ride alone. My children and I sold everything. We started completely fresh in a brand new house, with brand new stuff. We are very much at peace with our lives.
My H is starting to understand the impact of his actions. Those that knew me know that he and the OW (he had 2) had a tumultuous (sp?), Nasty relationship. She held on to him with every claw in her body. She faked 2 pregnancies, got arrested for DWI, talked about suicide, spent time in rehab, and stalked my children and I.....all to hold onto a relationship that was based on lies and deceptions. H finally saw through her, but it took him nearly 3+ years......
At any rate, I just want to say for those standers, there is HOPE. I know my H regrets his actions. He just doesn't know how to make things right at the moment. He does not live with us. But, he comes here everynight for dinner, and spends every waking hour with us on the weekends. We are not intimate...a lot of damage to erase, and I am closely guarded with him. We are trying to put our lives back together, but more time will tell.
