Hi Rainbowlove - missed you glad you found me again!
Sorry you had a backslide too.
I have been trying not to make H feel pinned down - I know what you mean. He has noticed I've eased off the pressure. I think our row was because H works shifts and last week was his worst one where I basically don't see him for five days or nights. I don't get to sleep with him and then he's in bed all day and just up and out the door again. I felt really lost and insecure as we had started to get a lot closer before that shift. It also makes H really tired so I think that was what made me mention things and H react badly. He said last night he should have handled it better and not sulked all day and that he's sorry he didn't come to comfort me when I was crying. I was amazed. I think he has changed a lot too from what we have been through because he would never have thought about something afterwards and said anything like that before.
I think you're right about falling back into a rut. H hasn't taken me out for quite a few weeks now and when he first came back it was almost like we were dating again. I'll have to think of a subtle way of dropping this in - that he needs to romance me a little. Although to be fair to him we have made plans and S was ill and then we've been unable to get a baby sitter.
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Also, are you speaking H's LL's enough?
Who knows!?!? I think I am but I did struggle to decide what his was even though mine was blatantly obvious when I read it. I ran it past H and he said he thought he needed a bit of all of them! So I am trying to cover them all which is very hard work! Its H that isn't speaking mine! When we first met he was very unable to express how he felt or even know what his feeling meant for quite a long time and he seems to have reverted back to this. Not the best thing to happen when my LL's are physical touch and words of affirmation! He even said last night he does love me just not in the way I want him to. I did kind of then try to explain that that is exactly what I was talking about in the LL book! That there is not much point loving someone in a way they don't recognise. I explained it by saying it would be like me buying him a skirt for Christmas because I wanted it. I think it maybe sunk in a little - he seemed to get what I meant.
Although to be fair to him we have made plans and S was ill and then we've been unable to get a baby sitter.
So I am trying to cover them all which is very hard work! Its H that isn't speaking mine! When we first met he was very unable to express how he felt or even know what his feeling meant for quite a long time and he seems to have reverted back to this. Not the best thing to happen when my LL's are physical touch and words of affirmation! He even said last night he does love me just not in the way I want him to. I did kind of then try to explain that that is exactly what I was talking about in the LL book! That there is not much point loving someone in a way they don't recognise. I explained it by saying it would be like me buying him a skirt for Christmas because I wanted it. I think it maybe sunk in a little - he seemed to get what I meant. 
