Hey OldFool and everyone else,

Well, I was fine...living my life, just waiting for the moment my lawyer would call to tell me when the divorce would be finalized.

Then WAH called. He called yesterday. I hate to admit I was a little excited to hear from him. I think it showed in my voice...daggummit . The last time I went to my C session, my C said that I may start to "fantasize" about H. I didn't know exactly what she meant, but I found myself doing just that. I started to fantasize that H missed me, and that he e-mailed me to tell me, and that he was willing to drop his requests (regarding his portion of my retirement & 401K) just so we could start talking again. In my fantasy, we go through with the divorce, but we start getting reaquainted again. In the end, we don't remarry but we stay together...sigh...how's that for a soap opera.

Anyway, my H called last night just to see how I was doing. He asked about work, about the house, the dogs, and my car. I had a lot to say and gave him an earfull. There was a tiny glimmer of hope that maybe, just maybe, he was starting to regret the divorce. And then he ruined it...he asked me if I was delaying the divorce ! WHAT?! He caught me completely off guard, but I said, "NO," which is true. Later, I wished I would have told him not to flatter himself, but I didn't think fast enough . Anyway, my H told me that his lawyer is doing a 2-week reserve duty. I told him that his lawyer keeps asking for extensions. He blamed my lawyer. So...

That blew my fantasy and any glimmer of hope I may have had. I think someone put him up to it, a friend, a family member, or a girlfriend...I don't know. My H is not one to ask those types of things. He's the type to "wait and see." So, I found it so unlike him to ask me this question.

My next C sesson is tomorrow evening.

Well, hope you are doing well. See, I'm not the only one who enjoys reading your posts :).

All my best,
alamogirl


Me - 48 (at time of 1st bomb)
H - 43
married - 16 Jul 94
no children
1st bomb - (said he was leaving) - 3 Jun 06
2nd bomb (said he was ready to file) - 10 Nov 06
H filed divorce - 17 Nov 06
Divorce finalized - 20 Jul 07