How would YOU explain it? That's not a rhetorical question... how WOULD you explain it?
I'm sorry LP, I didn't understand what you were getting at. My answer to the question is very simple. If we work under the assumption that HD and I are somewhat similar than the reason that he is still "in lust" with MsHD is that he has an inherently high or at least normal sexual demand and he is allowing his moral compass to determine the limits of his sexual supply. As soon as he finds himself in a position in which he decides that he has the moral right to look beyond MsHD for sexual partners he will immediately lose his attraction for a woman who is so cold and callous in her sexuality. At least that has been my analogous experience. Of course, his situation varies from mine in that my H wasn't low drive quite in the same manner as MsHD. I actually feel somewhat sorry for my STBX because I believe that he will have great difficulty finding a sexual partner who will tolerate both his depressive LD and the dark end of his bandwidth but they say every pot has got a lid so maybe he'll get lucky.-LOL
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