She wants to respect you. It is the biggest turn on there is. She needs to see your 'disgust' with her.
It is interesting how we all see such different things within just a few words.
I figured she purposely used the phrase "grit my teeth" to convey to you how pressured she feels and to see whether you care about her feelings. I would agree that not having sex with her gritting her teeth would be respectful to her AND to you.
Honestly HD I am not sure exactly what I intended other than to give a different view. MsHD is a lawyer like my xH so I see some similarities there. See my previous post about how I would use logic and reasoning to your advantage and not use them in a no-win situation. At the same time she is a woman so I try to empathize with how she might feel even if I have not had those feelings before.
In the end I am just a sentimental sap that would like to see most marriages work out in a healthy way for all involved. So far I have personally only seen one divorce where I agreed that it just could not work. All the others have seemed wasteful because at one point the couples were happy and compatible. These are just close friends or family I am referring to - so that is one "legitimate" divorce out of ten.
But what is happiness except the simple harmony between a man and the life he leads? ~Albert Camus
