No offense, but 'reasoning' like this will not work. Not with an LD.

No offense taken because I agree with you!! I completely agree that reasoning and logic will not work DIRECTLY to get her to want to have sex.

I am directing the reasoning and logic to getting to the CAUSE of the lack of sex. I see that as completely different.

Plus HD's wife is an attorney so I think she will respond to the reasoning and logic IF it is NOT AIMED at her. Or HD for that matter. The reasoning and logic should be directed at the problem and, to me, the key is for HD to frame the problem around something they both can want. The woman does not want sex at the moment. Forcing it or reasoning it is not what I would recommend. FWIW.

I think HD needs to stand firm in his desire of his wife and in making love to her. No need for any explanation. No need to convince. No need to bed. No need to force her against her will. This is masculine, IMHO. I am curious if HD has been able to keep up an honest desire of her. Is he able to look across the room at her while she does something and comment "You are an amazing woman and THIS is why I want to make love to you" And to especially do it when the time is not right so there is no pressure on her. Maybe whisper in her ear something to that affect. But let her know that it is HER that he desires.

At the same time, why not try to draw out why she is so shut down? Why not respect and empathize with the fact that she has lost something? Not being accusatory toward her but caring for her.

Listen I have written more than HD probably needs. I could be COMPLETELY off target and I know that I am NOT directly on target. Mostly I just hoped that I could trigger something different than what has been done before.





But what is happiness except the simple harmony between a man and the life he leads? ~Albert Camus