Still Alive IV: Hairdog

[fearless]

If I were MrsHD, I would see nothing off balance at all... there is nothing in any of those statements that would make me drop my drawers and spread my legs, and that is the bottom line.

If we haven't scared HD off, that image is BOUND scare him off!!

Add the image of Cobra with his legs spread to the image of Cemar with the CB-2000 and HD in his french maid's outfit. This is clearly disturbing thread!!!

Seriously though,

You just opened the door for all her deflections again... this could last for hours....

I am confused. Is the issue just that HD wants MsHD to spread her legs for him once a week? if that's all he wants, maybe I am going the wrong direction and suggesting too much work. Here's where I "assumed" that he wants them to start having a more open and loving relationship which is demonstrated (it makes sense to me) by somewhat regular lovemaking. So that's why I am interested in getting MsHD to acknowledge that their sex life used to be different and getting her involved in the problem solving. I assume she would like a better relationship also (although sex may not be her issue) and wouldn't it be GREAT if the techniques they use to get there solved both problems?

Anyway, sure it's an opportunity for some deflection but again stick to the subject at hand.


HD: Why has our sex life changed?

MsHD: why do you need sex?

HD: I want to feel close to you like we used to. Why do you think that changed?

MSHD: YOu need to feel happy within yourself

HD: Yes I do. Why do you think our sex life changed?

...

And if she finally goes to answer it:

MsHD: (maybe)1)I just do not feel like I used to about sex, 2) with work and the kids I don't feel up to it 3)...

HD: Do you see "aforementioned issue" as a problem in your life?

Two possible answers (If she deflects, keep going back to the yes ot no answer format)
MsHD: No

HD: If it is not a problem, then why would your sexual feelings toward me change? (Sorry but I have no idea where I would even go from there. But if you got that far, I am SURE that others could help more.

MsHD: Yes.

HD: WOuldn't it be great if we could solve this problem so we both could get more from the marriage?