I get what you're saying because I was married to the man who told me that food didn't taste as good when I didn't "make it with love" but the fact of the matter is that I served that guy dinner 6 nights out of 7 sometimes with love and sometimes just because people get hungry so I don't know why MsHD can't grow up and do the same.
WHAT?? I do not know much about your marriage Mojo but that certainly sounds P/A and just plain controlling to me! So he could tell when you cooked in anger??
But then again I assume he did not skip the meal because you didn't cook it with love, he just noticed it didn't taste as good. Sort of different for MsHD because in this case she just skips the meal because she is not hungry and not necessarily because HD has done or hasn't done something for her.
Not to be callous but isn't your STBX's stance on the food similar to what some of the guys say here, not only do they want to have sex; they want their wives to "desire" them also. That is where I get kind of confused in these discussions - they seem to jump back and forth between NEEDING sex AND needing to feel desired by their wives. While they can happen simultaneously, they don't always happen that way. So it feels confusing to me to sort through what their actual needs are. Personally, and I hate getting this personal, I can easily have sex if I am not in the mood and so far the guys I have been with in the past have been just fine with that. I could see how I would be less inclined to have sex if I was not in the mood if after having sex it became clear that they were disappointed in the fact that I did not desire them. Hey I am willing to have sex because I love you but don't guilt me because you expect me to always be "desirous" of you. But luckily for me the men in my life have actually been happy with the sex and weren't so preoccupied with a need to be wanted at EVERY moment.
Last edited by fearless; 03/20/0709:05 PM.
But what is happiness except the simple harmony between a man and the life he leads? ~Albert Camus
