Cemar wrote: ---------------------------------------------------------- What is it that your husband could do that would actually help, or would actually cause you to desire? ---------------------------------------------------------- ...answer everyone's questions and I will tell you the secret to generate desire in your spouse.
-NOPkins-
Ooh, Cemar...you gotta respond to this...cuz I wanna hear the answer to this one, too! LOL! cuz in all honesty, I don't know the answer to the question, either. It doesn't seem like I've "done" anything to cause this recent awakening in DW...'cept exactly what you've done, too: come here and whine about my problems for the last what? 4 years?? The difference is that a) she was unhappy with my unhappiness, and b) she read my unfiltered (i.e. "nasty") thoughts posted here on this board. Maybe its the power of the written word...different people process information differently, etc, etc. I don't know. Somehow, it struck a chord. But I know I wouldn't have ever said those things that I posted here to her face. rather "vinegar-y" stuff, when we all know, you attract flies with honey. But still, its not as if I never said anything about it. I've told her 1000 times that I'm unhappy with our SL...probably starting back in 1988, fer goodness sakes. How many times do I have to say it? like Choc said earlier, "how could you NOT know???". or not "get it"? well, she says she didn't "get it". {shrug}. I don't get that. This might be more of a mars/venus thing. I said it enough times for anyone to "know". Continuing to bring it up, express the same though, trigger the same argument, which lead to the same frustration, just seemed pointless to me, after a while. Better to just drop it, and move on, imo. anyway, maybe the same thing would work for choc and hd and cemar. show your w's what you've posted here. no, it won't make them feel all warm and fuzzy about themselves, but maybe it'll sink in if they read it. couldn't make things any worse. seems to have helped me, as horrified as I was at first to find out that W was lurking. (yikes. )
Originally Posted By: NOPkins
That is a great attitude!
aint it, though?! just the fact that she wants to get it, even if she never does, puts me way ahead of most here.
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