He called me and asked if I was alright, I said "no, I'm not" - no more "it's ok I'll be fine" for me. He is going to know I am hurting, he is going to know this is NOT alright. He is going to know that he needs to start making an effort around here if he wants this to work. It can't all be on my shoulders. I've been too strong for too long, its his turn to pick up the slack now
Amen sista! Be strong!
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He picked up that I was ready to pull the plug, and I am unless he starts making an effort.
I've done this myself, but I'm not sure it really works very well. It's kind of like a threat. Better to just make it known that things have to change, and save the "or else".
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he also told me that maybe he wasn't doing enough to move this R forward (good conclusion Sherlock!)
Okay, now easy does it. Give him a little credit. It probably took a lot for him to admit that. So encourage and support it, don't belittle it.
You can do this!
God Bless,
COG
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