In fact, I would not be surprised if he asked you to go back to work out of his own resentment toward you.
Very interesting. I have never ever thought of it in this light. Not in the light that maybe he didn't feel appreciated. When I was SAHM I took a lot of pride in it. The house was spotless, the clothes cleaned and the children WELL taken care of. All of my children were reading when they entered kindergarten. They are all gifted students and do very well in school. So I guess you can say I was very proud of the woman I was as a SAHM. I thought that I showed my husband appreciation but maybe I was wrong. Or he needed more? I would always have his dinner cooked and everything was taken care of. I guess I thought that was my appreciation. He didn't have to lift a finger. In a sense when he was insistent about me working it kind of felt that he thought I was being lazy and what I did at home didn't matter at all. It is also interesting that you use the words power struggle. Because although I have never labeled our behaviors in that sense it does make sense in our day to day life that we are in a power struggle. He really started changing when I went to work. It angered me so much. Because I thought here I am working which is something he wanted and am doing everything else and he is acting like a jackazz.
