Cobra - I enjoyed your post because it helped put things in perspective. Thanks. Nop, fearless - this is actually my current mode of thinking on the issue. And fearless, you're right - it does look like a p/a way of putting the decision on her. (Note: my initial email had language more like, "...so you decide - #2 or #3.")
So, are you envisioning me just basically saying "time to grit your teeth, honey, 'cause here I am," or an email saying, "please be ready, tonight, at or about 9pm, as I choose to take you up on your offer to have sex to save the marriage"?
