I see nothing wrong with you going back to work. I think it is for the better. But I do believe your H feels threatened by it. You are the only one who can change that. Whether his feelings are valid or not (because he asked you to go back to work), he still feels threatened.
In fact, I would not be surprised if he asked you to go back to work out of his own resentment toward you. I know that I never felt appreciated by my wife. So if she was going to complain all the time, plus stay home, then she might as well get out there and see how much fun it is to work and raise a family. Sure, he will have to do more housework, but you will still have to do 50% of that plus work full time.
That is a passive aggressive way of getting back at you, and if there is any truth to it, you should ask yourself why he felt that way and how you contributed to the situation. Only until you understand your role in that, and how you can change you so that your husband can perceive you differently, you two will be locked in a power struggle.
