I suppose I "change" my feelings about and toward my wife a dozen times a day. Sometimes I'm angry. Sometimes, I'm empathetic. Sometimes, I'm happy with her. Sometimes, I'm even - gasp - horny, and I want to jump her bones.
But it's hard to be consistently loving/empathetic/respectful towards someone who treats me the way my wife does from time to time. I'm sure her feelings toward me change often, too.
