He said he's seeing someone new

[phoenix23]

I wonder if OW realises exactly what happened with H leaving? Did he tell her how devastated I was? Did he tell her how he ended our 10 year R via email? Does she realise that despite what he says, everything with us is very much not resolved? Does she realise what a mess it is that she's ended up in the middle of? Does she realise that it's stupid of her to get involved with a man so fresh out of a M?

I wonder the exact same thing. In my case, the OW is 22 years old - I like to think she just has no appreciation of the magnitude of this situation at all, no understanding of how devastating it is to me, to my family, his family, our friends - maybe I just have to believe that in order for someone to do that, they would have to be completely oblivious to that, or else they are truly just pure evil.

And I made the same comments to my H about how he could possibly imagine that he is ready for a healthy relationship coming out of a 12 year relationship, but he doesn't seem to think it's a problem and clearly, neither does she. It is baffling.

Also, in my case, I believe H is telling people that we "SPLIT UP" rather than that he left me. And I know he told OW that I was basically a controlling bitch, so she probably thinks she has saved him from some awful fate.