Huh? So we have no control over our feelings? We can't change our attitudes and thoughts to put ourselves in a better emotional place? Well I guess cognitive theory is wrong then. And when I said "should" it's quite obvious I meant typical loving traits such as respect, understanding, blah blah. Those are a given in most people's definitions of a loving M.
I also feel we don't have control over our feelings. Take this for example I believe it is you that has this situation LFL and that is housecleaning. Your husband desires a clean house. While you don't. Well, can't you control your feelings to change your attitude so that maybe you will love to start cleaning?
