Being in a better emotional place is not the same as having control over our feelings. Trying to control your feelings, rather than simply accepting them for what they are, is a good path toward compulsion.
I think what I meant to say is that we can change our feelings by changing our thinking patterns, changing the way we "see" things.
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You seem to be taking a lot of things personally today
Not really sure what you meant by that. I'm just giving my personal take on things and I have been in many people's mental "shoes" in a sense, especially the desire to want to bitch about a spouse and then get validation from people on the board. I remember many times spending too much time complaining on the board about my H and the feelings I was having about him, then to have him come home from work with me in a pissy mood. How does bitching about our S on here really help? I changed my approach and it has been helpful. You can use this board to grow in your M or you can use it to escape. I learned my lesson, maybe other people can too.
