All right, Fearless, I'm going to pick on you a little bit because I know you and feel safe doing so.
Wouldn't the actual problem be WHY MsHD feels she needs to invalidate HD's desire?
Sure. But then you say...
My xH felt a need to totally invalidate my feelings because my hurt feelings caused HIM to feel extreme pain which he unconsciously needed to avoid to protect himself.
If not, then there are probably other issues where HD can help.
What were the other issues in your M where you could have helped?
What did you need to do to save your M and why didn't you do it?
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