See, that's what I mean. If he's keeping a scoreboard of what he does for her vs what she does for him, how is his "giving in her LL" any different than her "just doing it" for him? He's said in the past that he's not interested in her just doing it, that he needs to feel desire from her. Let's say her LL is acts of service. If he is doing acts of service, is he coming across as doing them quid pro quo, or are they really coming across as expressions of love? I'll bet they are coming across no different than her just doing it is coming across to him.
GGB,
If the scorecard is kept in your head, in the form of "I just don't see where he/she is working on this relationship nearly as much as I am; I don't feel loved" and NOT spoken to the spouse or even worn on one's sleeve, then I don't see anything wrong with it
A man may not feel comfortable giving flowers to a woman. If he learns that she loves them, and receiving them make her feel loved, then he should give them to her often, as an expression of his love for her. And he has an obligation to make the effort.
