I do not completely understand your situation but as an outsider I will jump in with my POV which is different and hopefully useful.
Instead of viewing her response as a tangent, look for what she may be saying in her e-mail. (Of course her response was tangential to your e-mail's content but not necessarily to HER issues)
"Is it that if I agree to do something I really don't want to do for you, that you will then believe I love you?"
So - the obvious questions for me the outsider, do you want her to do something she does not want to do and do you believe she loves you? If not, what is the risk at this point in time of putting it out there? IMHO, it does seem that the bigger issue is that you are not getting something you want from your W and that that issue makes you doubt how your W feels about you.
This is part of what I think you are feeling and , if so, it would be good to express to your W at this critical time in your M:
MsHD, In answer to this question of yours "Is it that if I agree to do something I really don't want to do for you, that you will then believe I love you?"
It is not that I want you to do something that you do not want to do; I want you to want to make love with me out of love for me. The second half of this question is even more critical to me. I do want to believe that you love me and I am not sure how to believe it.
HD
That is all I would write IF this comes close to capturing your true feelings. Everything else she throws at you is just noise and confusion which drives you off your main point. So the more you write, the more she can focus on tangential points. The only ways I can see she can respond to the above statement is to 1) tell you that she does love you (a good starting point), 2) tell you that she does not (pretty doubtful but I guess it would be better to know now), or 3) veer off into the question of how does she know that you love her. (Something that would need to be addressed also.) I think that any of these directions would be useful.
Oh and even more importantly, I have Kansas facing OSU in my brackets:) Of course being a big time Buckeye, I also have OSU winning!!
But what is happiness except the simple harmony between a man and the life he leads? ~Albert Camus
