H-dog,

I am so sorry. That is an incredibly crappy response. What about a return response on this order:

I do not consider sex to be a wifely duty nor a husbandly duty. However, I do consider it to be a sign of a functioning marriage and in a functioning marriage it will take the form of making love. I appreciate knowing where you stand on this and I will take it under advisement.

Hugs - you deserve better than this.

Karen