You misunderstand me. I'm not saying that CeMar's wife isn't in just as much pain as he is. I'm contesting the point that she doesn't know what it is he needs/wants. How can you NOT know with CeMar??
Maybe it's just me, as I've obviously had this same problem in my marriage, but I just don't buy the whole "I knew it intellectually, but I just didn't get it" argument. To me, it is a question of motivation and priority. It's amazing how when an unhappy spouse threatens divorce or separation, then suddenly the other spouse's intellectually knowledge turns quickly to "getting it" as well.
