Ok, lets take an example. I like kissing, my wife does not. We have not kissed in anyway in many years. So I will ask her to allow/initiate kissing on a daily basis. I will also ask her to allow/initiate french kissing when appropriate. ALL must be done with genuine enthusisim/passion.
Now what? How does the LD spouse actually do what I just asked? If the HD spouse has to ask, that means the LD spouse generally does NOT have genuine enthusiasim/passion for that activitiy. This is what I mean by the LD spouse has already failed. It is not just about doing an activity, it is more about WHY you do that activity.
