25yrsMLC...my H sober is still a fun guy...although I admit there are parts of his drunk personality I miss...he tended to be more affectionate...even if it was fake it felt good...he is not a rant/rave type person....he likes peace and calm...
Our kids have not really been exposed to his illness...he had many years of it being very controled...he has had one relapse...just before his 90 days, lol....he also comes from a family of alcoholics....and his sister is a recovered crystal addict...no relapses for her but it took being caught, thrown in jail for a year, and risking losing her kids...she went to recovery groups daily for a year and was on probation for 3 years...she is a true to support for her brother now...the other brother will never give it up....it has nearly killed him several times between health issues and car accidents...he missed the new year of 2000 because he was in a coma for 6 months...got out and started drinking again...all we can do is pray for him...
My H's real problems came out with his MLC...they collided at the same time...that is what the kids saw...they didn't grow up with a dad getting drunk....he is now closer to God himself, as we all are through this journey...it is hurtful to see someone you love be self destructive....but scary for you kids to be around them...I would definitely set limits on W with son in the car...I know with my H and his diabetes I laid down the law...until it was all under control for a period of time he was not to have son in the car with him at all...
My H had to hit the bottom before acknowledging his problem...I am afraid for Mark that the bottom was NOT the DUI for his wife...may she find that bottom before she hurts someone she loves....Mark...I feel for you and keep you in my thoughts...
