Well I was woken up by the phone today. I had stayed up late and planned on sleeping in, but 9 am the phone rang. It was the W, she said she was at Costco and wanted to know if I wanted anything. I told what I needed and that was about it.
My phone rang again around noon. It was the W again this time she said she was at Walmart and had bought more stuff than would fit in her car and wanted me to drive over and help her out. I told her OK and met her at Walmart about 20 minutes later. When I got there it was just a couple of small bags that would have easily fit. So what was up? I don’t know.
I took her bags and she said I’ll meet you at the house. I told her I had a few errands to run, so it would be a little while. Anyhow when I did get to the house my wife still had not unloaded her car so I did. She was polite and friendly, acting normal, she did seem to be fishing for compliments today. I hadn’t had a chance to shower yet so I took a shower and when I finished my W wanted to go over schedule. I told her I did not have time I had to go pick up our son at school.
I went up to the school and got my boy, however I needed to talk to his aid in the class about his homework assignment. She is a bright and cheerful woman, who knows we have been having marital problems. And she had confided in me a few weeks ago, when I ran into her at the hospital where my mother was that she had dealt with recurrent alcohol problems with her spouse as well. We talked for a while again about our issues; it was nice having someone in the flesh that had similar problems. She has started hugging me when we see each other and I have to say it felt good. It kind of scared me though, we have a lot in common and neither of us are in a good place relationship wise, I have be careful to not let it get out of hand between us. It also made me think more about going to an Al Annon meeting.
Anyhow I went home and went up to the bedroom to go over schedules with the W. She was chatty and upbeat. She wanted to know how my mother was doing and offered advice on several of her issues. I thought that was considerate. She also said she new it was difficult for me having to sleep at my mothers and if I wanted to sleep in my own home some nights it was OK, but not to read anything more into it. I tried to get through schedule issues but my W continued to discuss other things and lingered. I don’t remember exactly what she said but she was looking for empathy because her knee was bothering her, I just gave it a pat. Finally we finished up and I went downstairs. My son and I watched a little TV and then he went down the basement to his game room. I just changed the channel to CNBC and was relaxing and my W came down. She got me some cheese and grapes and sat down beside me. No R but some calm small talk. She went back upstairs after 15 minutes or so.
I took my son to karate class. After that I returned to the house, my wife asked me to stay for dinner. We had dinner, no big talks. I helped clean up and left. W was pleasant the whole time.
So I guess today was an OK day. Nothing bad is good, and mentally I felt pretty good today.
