Its over...she filed part 2

[ImprovedRomeo]

She just replied to my email from two weeks ago, the one I journaled here: Page 2


Thanks for offering to help me with my issues of the past. I feel that I've worked through a lot of those issues through my years of counseling and now am working on more recent issues.

I think that it's important that you have worked to change your
behavior. I'm sure that D will also benefit from it. I respect that you have worked really hard to change and better yourself. It's turned out to be very good for you.

Of course I get sad when D asks to see you when you're not around
which I why I give you a call. I miss her like crazy when she's not with me. I usually end up working at home until late in the evening those days because I have nothing to do. Its just at this point, I'm not ready to go back. Maybe that point will never come. Like your other email, maybe if it does you will already have moved on. I'm willing to take that chance so that we can all live in peace.

I still notice that you always talk about my issues. I'm really not running away from them. If you think I am, I feel that you're wrong on that account. I am also working hard to resolve a lot of things that have happened in my life. Both the things that I am and am not responsible for. I am addressing everything as best as I can. I see my counselor every other week and have since early fall. I've been doing remarkably well lately. However, you still continue to say that its 'my' issues as though of course, its still 'my' fault. The two of us got married (or I guess that I forced you to marry me according to your story) and we both made errors. We both had issues from somewhere. We both contributed to the demise. I just don't see how it is still all my issues.

Anyway, sorry it's taken me so long to write back. I had to think about these for a bit.


what can I say to her at this point? how should I reply? When she dropped D off this sat I acted very playfully towards D and was cordial but detached to STBXW. I wonder if that caused her to reply? I know I'm probably reading into it too much.