He said he's seeing someone new

[phoenix23]

I know that everyone is basically stuck in the middle, and it really sucks. I wonder if H realises how far reaching the impact of his leaving really is? Does he acknowledge that it's his action of leaving that set this whole impossible situation up? I hate that people have to be stuck in the middle like this. I don't even feel like I can really go out of my way to contact them if they're people who are still in regular contact with H, purely because I don't want to have to put them in the awkward position of having to be around me and having to watch what they say. Ugh, it's just all so hard!

I can totally relate to this. This is something I have asked myself over and over - how does he not comprehend the magnitude of the ripple effect that this is having, not only on my family, and his family, who are both devastated, but also on all of our mutual friends? This is awkward as hell for every single one of them right now.

And I too have been tempted to judge the ones (which is most of them) who haven't actually taken a stand against what he has done although they will tell me privately that they think he has behaved like a jackass. I feel like if I was ever in that situation with one of my good friends, I would speak up and not say one thing to one side of the couple and something else to the other side. But, looking back, I probably have been in situations that were sort of similar, in which I maybe should have taken a stand, but haven't. There is no easy answer to these situations.