I've just had a quick skim through your thread here.
I don't read too much on this site anymore. I find it too depressing to be honest.
I'm the lucky one in the fact that I'm divorced and I have an injunction to protect me from my violent and abusive h.
I'm sorry that you've been having more trouble from your h. And as usual I have nothing to say/offer other than letting you know that I am thinking of you.
It was interesting reading that your children have to stay with your h. Mine don't. I don't think anything would make them. Now they are older they will stay over night on a special occassion like a birthday. But they like to leave early in the morning.
I don't know about this parent alienation stuff but surely your children are old enough to make up their own minds.
I laughed at kml's last post. Makes me feel very thankful that I'm single.
Take care Laughing. My thoughts are with you and your family. X