Yesterday BB did talk about some EC related subjects. We went over some past experiences and what they caused us to think at the time and how we felt.
BB wanted to get married in a short time after we met and because I didn't move ahead, she felt she loved me much more than I loved her. Me, OTH, loved BB, but couldn't see how we were going to live on my Army income and fund the responsibilities I had and/or would incur.
We went over what was good in our early R, about the dreams we had, the passion, the hot sex, and up to the point that BB felt I lost interest in the R, about 5 years into the M.
I once again explained I wasn't losing interest in her, but that financial obligations were weighing more heavily on my mind, and took more of my time. I talked about alternatives I might have taken to allow me to spend less time working.
The point I wanted to make and did, was, what BB saw as less love for her, less sexual desire, was my super sense of responsibility gaining in strength. She had the dream; I saw what took to reach a goal.
I listed the things we might have cut out of our spending process and how much our church activities/duties and $$ contributions we made, caused me to work even more.
Part of the conversation boiled down to BB desiring certain feelings and things with in a M, and me having my own goals, in addition to hers, but it was very important for me to figure out a way to make things happen.
I didn't feel like I had to prove a point or apologies for doing something that was not 100% right, other than saying, if I had it to do over, I would change a few things.
There was EC on both our parts and some movement away from blame or accusing for things that had results that were less than expected.
With some good EC, I turned up the sexual connection and met some resistance, but put on my "Hank" personality to move forward.
^^(OO)^^ Yes, pigs flew and higher than a couple of weeks ago. Hairdog, you can say "lucky-------"
