thanks for the reply. I actually read your thread early this morning. It is a roller coaster and I thought that ride had stopped but then she gave may a coupon for one more spin!
I know friends are looking out for your best interest and they can not understand the pain we put our S through. Even though we weren't the sole reason for the breakup, we did contribute.
Originally Posted By: 25yearsmlc
ddc,
So here is what I asked myself, and now will ask you. Given your own changes and the new you, what do you have to lose by trying with the X?
What conditions would/should/could you put on a new R with her, and on yourself and on her? (Like how much disclosure--don't snoop no matter what--financial issues, etc.).
I don't have anything to lose but I guess I don't feel she is trying. Maybe she is trying in her own way, but I can't help to feel like I am bothering her if I call or ask to spend time with her. I guess that my problem, if I am "dating" I usually likem to talk to the person a few times a day and a least see them once a week. Should I do this with the exW? Will she feel pressure if I call here everyday? I am tired of thinking should I or shouldn't I do this.
Yes I am grateful for the second chance God has given me. I looked back through my thread and see a lot of positives, but then a part of me wonders if they are heartfelt or her just going through the motions.
