J- I can understand the sense of being betrayed - I think almost all of us on these BBs feel them strongly one time or another. As for the focusing forward part of your husband, remember that men (for better or worse) like to fix things. Until such time my WAW dropped the bomb, I have to admit that I had no clue as to what "listening" needed to be. Even now, there are times when I have to restrain myurge to fix during conversations with her. It is a hard thing to understand - try and have him read the 5LL book (you seem to have a good enough relationship that he should be able to do so), and explain what your LL is to him - I know that it would be best if he already knew (hey, I am still scratching my head over what my wife's LL is - classic guy, go figure). In his own mind, he might be feeling that he has already apologized and being the guy that he is, he wants to move on (part of the fix). Have a good day, and do get some sleep..
