On another thread you said: I think this one is huge. I know my wife is always in mother mode and NEVER in lover mode. Her whole point in life is to live for her children.
I have mentioned this dynamic before with regard to my wife. It is discussed in Pia Melody’s book “Facing Love Addiction : Giving Yourself the Power to Change the Way You Love.” If your wife is truly doing this (and IMO that is a big if since it is only your POV), then she is in the avoider node, avoiding you, and using her kids as a surrogate EC relationship. That implies two things: 1) she may have some FOO based issues surrounding intimacy toward men that she wants to avoid, 2) you do not provide the safe environment she needs to have that EC relationship. So, as everyone here has repeatedly told you, a lot of your problems come from you.
So what is it that people want to know that I have not expressed before? I have touched on so many things.
There are plenty of unanswered questions on this thread alone. Why don’t you start there? Now don’t go running away and hiding as you usually do when more tough questions come back to you. That is your MO. You know that.
