nicola...ditto..you sound solid on the phone....steady...and if it was a blind date first phone call, I'd ask you on a date. Keep the faith. Take care of yourself. Feel strength in knowing that you've done all you can...that you are NOT a WAW...that you fought the good fight. Your heart takes precedence now.
Frank
Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11) Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10 Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;
Nicola - My analyst recommended a book which you might find helpful James Masterson 'In search of the Real Self'. It is a well written book by a respected clinical therapist [he is at Yale, I believe]. What he writes is interesting. What I think happens in MLC is that a lot of personality traits that the MLCer has been keeping the lid on, because they have a poorly integrated personality - [poor sense of identity, and low self esteem etc] bubble up, so that we can look back and say 'Yes, they always had that tendency', but it seems to take over, if that makes sense??
The book as easy to read, and I actually enjoyed it..
nicola...thanks for stopping by my thread the other day. You sound good. As my sitch takes a turn for the worse and the handwriting is on the wall, I want to thank you for all your support over the last 10 months.
FIB
Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11) Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10 Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;