Well I took Frank's and other's advice and put it to test this weekend.
I started flirting with her almost as soon as I got home on Friday. Just used some of the things Frank mentioned plus some of my own creations. At one point on Saturday I approached her with a little flirt. She gave me a funny look and said she was'nt sure what kind of game I was playing. I said I just like what I see and she should just play along with me. She said OK.
It sort of came to a head (no pun intended) on Sunday. The kid's were all out, and W was in the garage. I came up on her took her in my arms and via Frank I said, "I know you want me right now, like in the old days I would take you down right now, but too bad we can't do that now", and I walked away and left her there in heat. But I made the mistake of turning around and going back for more at which time she shrugged me off.
So then she gave me a little attitude for awhile and I pulled her aside again in the bike shed. I asked her what was bothering her. She explained that "you know how my feelings area"(she does'nt have the feelings she needs to by physically intimate) and she hates it when she has to stop my advances. So I said that I'm not wanting her to be uncomfortable or pressured, but I dig her and I want her and I'm going to get her, and I'm NEVER going to stop pursuing her so "you should just get over it". I also told her that it's not going to be so easy for her from now on, I'm not going to be easy, she's going to have to work for it. Her response, "okay".
So I'll keep up the offensive for awhile because I think it may take us somewhere. I definately don't see there were any negative ramifications, and I think she'll play along and see where it takes us. Under normal circumstances she does'nt like my advances partly because I would get that depressed and rejected look when I got shot down. Well this weekend I was on fire and NOTHING could get me down. I just kept on going and going.
One thing's for sure that I feel better about it, gives me a little more control. I just have to have extra tough skin at PMS time.
Thanks Frank and all the rest of you my friends. She's gonna fall!
God Bless,
COG
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