Me 53 H 51 OW 25 Bomb may 06 left june 8/ 06 ILYBNILWY (twice!) 7/6/07 H wants to come home 7/21/07 H comes home 7/07 -7/08 long haul letting go of OW now piecing in earnest
I didn't realize how difficult it is to have this great bike in the garage and not be able to ride it!!! I cannot ride it until after I complete my training on April 11 & 12. "I wanna be a cool rider..." Sorry, Michelle is singing in my mind :-)
Guilty pleasure alert - I keep going out to the garage and starting the bike up, revving up the engine.
Me:56, W:51 D:26,S:24,S:22 Married:18 Bomb 9/27/06 Separated 11/27/06 Divorced 10/6/08 Leaving it up to God
My W saw the bike in the garage prior to going to my grandmother's funeral on Friday. Her reaction was something. She could not believe that I was serious about buying it. She is used to me wanting something but choosing something for the family instead or paying off bills.
The whole day she was really fantastic. She was incredibly supportive during the funeral and over at my uncle's house afterwards.
When I saw her today (we went to church and lunch and then came home), she spent more time with me than even the kids. She tried to encourage me to get a tattoo to go with my decision to buy a bike. Having the bike appears to have caused some "interest" for my wife in me. She began to share a lot with me about being excited about her new apartment, which she is nervous about but is doing something on her own, getting her upper ear pierced and teasing me that she had a tattoo (she hasn't gotten it yet). Don't worry, my reaction was "can I see it" with a smile on my face. Do I want her to get a tattoo? No. I don't have anything against tattoos but she has never liked them until the friends she works with showed them theirs.
I just don't want her to get something permanent in her MLC state and regret it later. Of course, there are worse things and if she gets through this and our marriage continues, I could care less if she has a tattoo (as long as it does not have another man's name on her -- which it wont).
Who would have thought that by pursuing something for myself that it might spur interest in me by her? Doesn't matter anyway if it is for the wrong reasons.
Me:56, W:51 D:26,S:24,S:22 Married:18 Bomb 9/27/06 Separated 11/27/06 Divorced 10/6/08 Leaving it up to God
Do not get too excited about this. As Lis says slow and steady. GALing is just one of the steps in this for you, and many times the spouse is interested in the changes made.
Make sure that you make those changes for the only right reason, for you.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
