He told me at one point shortly after he left that he doesn't know how to love, there's something really messed up inside him, he doesn't feel empathy. He said three months ago the same thing: he can't be in an intimate R b/c he can't share himself, there's something very messed up about him.
Listening is one of the most important tools we are taught to master here. He is telling you something very important. Clearly, after 3 women now, he is not finding what he wants..if it even exists?
IMO, I think you have fought the gallant fight nicola. I know you better now and you deserve better. Perhaps it is time to move on and get moving with new things in your life. Besides being bombed, THAT is probably the TOUGHEST thing to have to confront.
((HUGS)) Frank
Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11) Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10 Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;
